Last night as I was getting ready to drift off into dreamland, it hit me. I’m fed up with my flaws. Tired of being dysfunctional when it comes to certain aspects of my life. We all have our flaws, insecurities and fears so how do we overcome them, if at all? The most challenging aspect of my existence is my love life in terms of making that leap of faith to trust and commit to someone and to myself as well actually. I’ve let my past carve a niche into my being that has been extremely difficult to smooth out. It’s a battle within that I am unsure a lot of people understand. Some of us take these leaps quite often, fall down and keep on leaping. However, depending on other responsibilities we have in our lives, it may not be so easy for some of us.
Happy Ever After — Is it simply in fairy tales we see on television or a viable possibility? We decided to get a female’s point of view on the topic. Pay attention Love Monkeys
Ever since we were little, we were all programmed to expect to be saved by our very own prince charming, fall in love, and live happily ever after. Thank you Disney for drilling this fairy tale complex into our subconscious. Unfortunately, for the 5 year old girl in all of us, those fairy tales don’t exist for most of us. I have come to the conclusion that we need to insert some realistic expectations into this whole “fairy tale” idea that we grew up believing in. I think most of us can’t really see the difference between a bratty need for the unattainable and actual happiness.
I’m stubborn…very stubborn. I’ve known this for many years but always found a way to justify it in my own mind and to others. The truth of the matter is being one of those hard headed, stubborn love monkeys will get you nowhere when it comes to the world of dating and love. Personally, as I get older, I find myself realizing my faults and re-thinking a lot of my views; thus, questioning my past decisions and viewing my current state of being through a different set of eyes.
I never imagined that I would be on the cusp of my 32nd birthday not only unwed, but totally single after a string of failed relationships. I always imagined by 30 I would be married to the love of my life, and have a few little ones running around. Actually I put a time line on myself that I wanted to be married by 25 and have kids before 30; I guess life had other plans for me. I am currently living in my sister’s dining room which has been not so professionally turned into a bedroom from the handy work of my Dad.
My whole life is set in a 10 by 10 foot room without a proper closet (imagine the horror).
This is a short film I came across on Vimeo that I found thought provoking. The F word… FATE. Also provides some good love advice if you think about it.
For all the years I can remember, a large amount of the male population are labeled as “cheaters” and have in fact cheated at one point in their relationship history. Women are not immune to this so it can safely be said that both sexes can relate here.
What percentage of men cheat? What percentage of women cheat? What do you consider cheating? What are the factors that lead to your partner stepping out on you?
Research expert Tom W. Smith, director of the General Social Survey for the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago, conducted a poll of 10,000 people over two decades to aid in answering these questions. These are his findings:
I always heard that you should live with someone before you marry them so you will really get to know them and find out if you can stand each other long enough to share a life together and be married. I agreed with that statement figuring, it is better to find out before you totally commit and have a ring on your finger if you can live with someone and all their habits or annoying rituals that might drive you crazy. After much experience and thought into this subject, and after breaking down the meaning of living together to get to know each other before sharing a life , it doesn’t even make sense.