One of our main focuses at Love Monkey is to help men evolve into mature, love enabled beings. The other is to help women understand us as men and divulge our thoughts and feelings from a male point of view. In this post, I will be discussing personality traits that men should strive toward and women should look for in their partner. As we know, chemistry is a key factor to a lasting bond but other factors should be taken into consideration as well. There are characteristics in a man that have been proven to aid long-term relationship success. Okay ladies…the following personality traits are what you should be looking for to determine if he is an evolved Love Monkey ready for a successful future with you. Pay attention Love Monkeys!
He is decisive in what he wants.
He has to know what he wants to do when he “grows up” so to speak. If he is still undecided on his future plans and goals, those decisions may wind up conflicting with yours. Ask him the popular question: “Where do you see yourself in five years?”. The response should be well laid out void of confusion and uncertainty.
He is a bundle of positivity.
A study led by the University of Oregon found that women who had upbeat partners felt more satisfied in their relationships. Positive people bring positive energy which creates a happy people and being happy is what its all about! If a woman is having a bad day, a positive perspective on the situation from her partner will always brighten her spirits. We all have our ups and downs but make sure he is a positive force in your life. If not, aren’t you better off without him?
He is open to compromise and change.
Men can be stubborn. In some cases, women attempt to change men knowing deep down it is just not in their control. To cure this dilemma, men need to have the capacity to transform and grow with you. He should be openly willing to hear your views and suggestions regarding himself and the relationship then try to work with you and compromise. Look for this in your partner ladies. And to my fellow Love Monkies, let go of the ego a little and genuinely listen to what your partner is trying to get across to you.
He is financially responsible.
A high percentage of relationships end due to disputes about money and finances. You want someone that is smart and responsible with their finances regardless of the career they hold. Being financially responsible portrays self control, responsibility and maturity. In addition, studies have shown that men who are financially reckless share many traits with men who cheat.
He maintains a decent relationship with his family.
Family should be #1 in his book. Pay attention to how he treats his immediate family and the type of relationship he holds with his parents. In some cases, parents may not of contributed much to his personality but you can still get a good inkling based on interactions with the people he loves in his life.
Do you think other personality traits are important in determining whether a man is ready for a long term, successful relationship? Do tell!