Are you ready to get back in the dating game? Have you forgotten how to date? Don’t worry, it happens to us all. Being married to the same person for years, you forget about how and where to meet women. A divorce is such a stressful time, but once you’re ready if you follow some basic rules you’ll be dating again in no time.
1. Find a new hobby.
The first rule of dating is to find a new hobby. No one is suggesting you sign up to a dating site (yet!). But by taking up a new hobby or interest not only is it a great way to meet new people with similar interests, you’ll also learn new skills. Relationships are usually centered around work and family, but this will throw you out of your comfort zone and give you new found confidence.
However, don’t take up a hobby you have no interest in in the hope that you’ll meet your perfect woman. It’s not clever and she’ll see straight through you! The important thing is to have fun and enjoy spending time in your own company. Often relationships happen in the least likely places and when you least expect it!
2. Spend time with old friends.
Making friends can be tough and it only seems to get harder as we get older. It’s important to make new friends and expand your horizons but don’t forget about your past. Sometimes it can be difficult when you share so many friends with your ex but don’t let your divorce affect your whole life. Meet up with old friends and join reunion sites to reconnect with long lost pals. You never know who you might bump into.
3. Find time for yourself.
Married life can take over, making it hard to find time for yourself. It can even be tempting to ‘let yourself go a bit’. After all you’re a guy, who’s going to notice those few extra pounds? But now it’s more important than ever to start looking after yourself. And not just to find a date, not all women are that shallow! The truth is, the better you look and eat, the better you’ll feel. Use the extra time to join a gym or start running, or even rock climbing. There’s no better way to show people you’re okay than by looking healthy and happy, and you may even get a date.
4. Still no date? Don’t punish yourself.
So you’ve discovered new hobbies, spent time with old friends, got fit, and you still haven’t been on a date? It doesn’t matter, no one will be counting and there isn’t a time limit on this. Think about what you love doing. The chances are you aren’t twenty anymore and standing at the edge of the dance floor at your local nightclub isn’t going to help you find ‘the one’. So unless this is your new hobby, don’t do it. You are much more likely to find someone who shares the same interests as you, if you spend time in the places you like.
Remember, take the pressure off, relax and have fun. After all it’s not another marriage you’re looking for.