According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 85% of men said that their partner had experienced an orgasm during their most recent sexual event, while only 64% of women reported actually having had an orgasm.
As men, we like to think we are amazing in bed and satisfy our women EVERY time. Men need to understand that women don’t usually reach climax as easily and often as we do. Men can brush up against a clothes hanger or watch an episode of “Real Housewives of Orange County” and get off. LMAO! Seriously, let’s take a look at a few motives behind those fake screams we have all experienced:
We all know the affect of stress on both men and women. When it comes to the bedroom, I would say it affects women more significantly.
Women need to feel sexy and wanted. Low self esteem can serve as a major blocker for women as they are thinking about how they look during the act instead of just enjoying it.
Yes, this happens to women too. Women want to please just as much as men want to please their women.
Lack of Sleep
If women are sleep deprived, they are on edge, grouchy and just not in the mood. This factor usually shines brightest when a baby or young children are in the household.
On average, women need 10-30 minutes to reach their climax.
Recognize the Real Thing!
Personally, I think men can tell if their partner is achieving a genuine orgasm or faking it. If you are in tune with your partner and notice the little things, guiding her to that point and recognizing it becomes a far less daunting task. For my uncertain Love Monkeys, look for the following:
Rise in body temperature and heart rate
Increased pace of breathing
Muscles throughout her body tense up
“Bearing down” of the pelvic area
Her nails digging into your skin
The feeling of warmth inside her vagina during climax
Been faked out? Have an interesting experience? Let us know!