For all the years I can remember, a large amount of the male population are labeled as “cheaters” and have in fact cheated at one point in their relationship history. Women are not immune to this so it can safely be said that both sexes can relate here.
What percentage of men cheat? What percentage of women cheat? What do you consider cheating? What are the factors that lead to your partner stepping out on you?
Research expert Tom W. Smith, director of the General Social Survey for the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago, conducted a poll of 10,000 people over two decades to aid in answering these questions. These are his findings:
22% of married men and 15 percent of married women have cheated at least once.
Nearly 20% of survey takers in committed relationships have romantically kissed someone else, a breach that 83% of people consider to be cheating.
15% of men (though only 7% of women) have engaged in online sex or sexual Webcamming, which 66% of people consider to be cheating.
Cheating tends to happen well into the relationship — especially in the three- to five-year zone
Now let’s take a look at a few things that will keep us out of the confessional at church on Sunday.
Make sure you are fully vested in your partner. Sometimes we don’t want to lose our partner or are afraid they will leave if we do not commit. This may be true in some cases but better to save the future heartache and drama by communicating. It comes down to treating someone as you would like to be treated. We’ve heard the saying all our lives but don’t follow through on it.
Keep conversations G rated
You may have a number of friends and/or co-workers of the opposite sex you find attractive (your partner doesn’t know this, duh). Topics can easily veer off into a land that induces sexual thoughts and curiosities. Men a.k.a Love Monkeys are horny and thinking about sex 24/7. If we can limit the number of times it comes up a day, we can avoid possible liaisons. DO NOT PUT YOURSELF IN A SITUATION TO FAIL.
If you are a sexually charged individual and are a fan of porn, use it as a release valve. Your partner may not approve but as long as its not excessive, she will get over it. Better to “blast off” in your home to a computer screen than outside the home with some hoochie.
I know for some of us this can be a daunting task. Bottom line is if you are not ready, don’t commit. Men and communication don’t always mesh but it works…Trust me! I’d love to hear from men and women on this! Don’t be shy…we can’t see you. =)